What is oxytocin, how does it influence behaviour and why is it important in building connection. Learn how to build connection, trust, caring and empathy by appropriate social touch–socially and professionally. And how to increase your oxytocin levels for wellbeing, from hugs and pet therapy.Read More
In this post, we focus on first impressions–how important are they and why? And how this relates to you and your personal presentation. We touch on two related concepts, confirmation bias and impression updating.Read More
In this post, we seek to discover the truth, reading the body language of the Skripal poisoning suspects–Russian spies, Alexander Petrov and Ruslan Boshirov. Are they lying about their true identity?Read More
Watch my TED-Ed.com lesson: Are There Universal Expressions of Emotion? Discover: What are the universal expressions? How Charles Darwin, Silvan Tomkins and Paul Ekman contribute? Do blind people express emotion like sighted people do? Why are universal expressions important for survival? What are display rules?Read More
Reading body language, emotion and microexpressions at the Trump-Kim Summit. Donald Trump and Kim Jong Un meet for the first time–we analyse their nonverbal communication signals to tell you what they are really saying.Read More
Courtney Waller interviews Sophie Zadeh about her TED-Ed lesson: Are there universal expressions? They discuss the history of emotion, display rules, animal and human expression, botox on expressions, how to trigger emotions, macroexpressions and microexpressions.Read More
Yesterday, I worked with a local government organisation, who, put simply, deal with a lot of crisis situations. Due to the nature of their work, we talked a fair bit about the emotion of fear– what happens in the body and brain when we experience fear? How do we express fear nonverbally? How do we recognise it in others?
Shortly after leaving the building, as I walked to the local train station, I looked ahead and saw a clumsy looking male. Youngish, perhaps in his twenties and very large in stature. I continued walking and passed an odd couple who were sitting on a grassy verge. Odd because they looked out of place. I admit I was a little wary of them and the way they looked at me. As I passed them I heard a short, loud, aggressive yelling up-ahead. I quickly looked up, but nothing looked wrong. The clumsy guy was still walking in my direction and the family behind him left the pavement to get into their car. There appeared to be no altercation. I was a slightly irked by missing the outburst, because I didn't know whether there was a threat ahead, or not. I was clearly distracted by the odd couple.Read More
Woohoo... earlier this month, I tied the knot! In secret. In a cave. With a picnic on the beach 'reception', just a few people present and a pizza feast later that night.Read More
A big thank you to all of your support and requests this year. We wouldn't be here without you!
We've been working hard (playing Santa), to fulfil your requests. Although some things are still work in progress, today we launched our SHOP! As a thank you, we currently have everything on sale, with huge discounts– until the end of January. Hopefully, some of the sessions will be able to help fulfil some of your New Year resolutions. There are some freebies too! Be sure to check it out.
For me, it's been an emotional roller coaster of a year- not a good year, with the loss of my mum. But I'm determined to get 2018 off to a great start- watch this space.
In the name of seasonal festivities, I've made you a cheesy animation to say Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year...Read More
I was interviewed by Kyle De Souza for the Western Australia School of Mines Alumni podcast. In this episode, we talk about body language...Read More
I was interviewed by Kyle De Souza for the Western Australia School of Mines (WASM) Alumni podcast. In this episode, we chat about deception...Read More
Are you missing an important channel of communication?
Most of us listen to spoken words as we interact with others, but not many people pay conscious attention to what remains unspoken. Words can, and do, convey lots of complex thoughts, theories and feelings, but they are usually filtered and adapted to create a certain impression, giving you, the listener, the 'intended' message. There are lots of reasons for this– to be more amicable, to maintain relationships, to deceive, to conceal emotions, to make others feel better– to name a few. So it's not all bad. Imagine if everybody spoke their thoughts– Ouch! In many situations, however, you could benefit from knowing more and having a good understanding of how the person you interact with really feels, whether it's potential deception in a negotiation or marriage, or when you just want a family member to be more open with you.Read More
Scientists have found that the muscles in our face can produce 30 independent movements– 12 in the upper face, and 18 in the lower face. Working together in various combinations, these muscle movements are capable of creating thousands of expressions. However, most scientists agree that out of all of these expressions, only seven are 'universal'– innate within all of us, regardless of culture. They are...Read More
Yippee, I got the go ahead to share my good news with you! I've been working on a script for a TED-Ed animation and it's finally coming to fruition. The TED-Ed team have brought in the director, animator and narrator/actor to work their magic and bring it to life. This is a huge thrill for me, since I've been a TED obsessive for years. My TED-Ed lesson animation is about emotional expression– universal expressions, so over the next few weeks, I'll be posting some supporting information on the subject on my blog.
If you aren't already familiar with TED-Ed animations, here's one by Peter Mende-Siedlecki, I think you may find it interesting- it's about first impressions, which are incredibly important for setting us up for successful interactions. It's less than 5 minutes long.Read More
I've been quiet on my blog for a while now because I lost my beautiful mother in May. I've wanted to share with you some observations during my experience of loss– of emotion and nonverbal expression– I'm finally ready to write about it. I'm not sharing my experience of loss as such, but what I want to do here is mention some behaviours that felt noteworthy, illustrating some of the nonverbal cues that I usually write about.
It was sudden and unexpected, so much so, that I didn't get a chance to say goodbye. Living on the other side of the world, I hadn't seen my mum for over two years. I was 'greeted' at the airport by my sister, who reluctantly stepped forth from behind her partner, his body temporarily and unknowingly shielding her from what she had to do. They were waiting right at the very back of the crowd, distancing themselves from the reality of what she was about to disclose.Read More
Last week a client asked me if I'd ever blogged about Lloyd Rayney, a prominent Perth Barrister, who in 2010 was charged with the murder of his wife (2007). He was found 'not guilty' in 2012. I'm not too familiar with the case as I didn't pay much attention to it at the time; back then I lived in the UK and later, on the other side of Australia, in Sydney. From what little I had heard, since moving to Perth a year ago, I assumed Lloyd Rayney was guilty. This was largely based on public consensus in Perth, though I don't directly recall any conversations about the case, so most likely I've been swayed by the media.Read More
I'm sure many of you saw South Korea expert Professor Robert Kelly's reaction to the unexpected interruption by his children, live on air, as he was interviewed by the BBC. I'm also sure that you sensed the discomfort he experienced as it happened. But do you know why? Do you know exactly what you saw in Professor Kelly's nonverbal cues that caused you to sense his discomfort?Read More
When we experience emotions we feel physical sensations within our body. Have you ever stopped in the moment of an emotion, to evaluate what you are feeling? And where that feeling is? In an emotion, our brain triggers physiological changes within our body. These changes alter our autonomic processes (processes we don't consciously control), such as heart rate, breathing, sweating and blink rate. In turn these physiological changes create physical feelings, or sensations, within our body. We associate these physical feelings with the emotion. Researchers at Aalto University have created visual bodily maps of emotions, based on self reported bodily sensations, experienced when an emotion was triggered. The results were gathered from 701 participants from around the world.Read More